Dear Wendy is a relationship advice blog. You can read about me here , peruse the archives here and read popular posts here. You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. My husband and I have been together for seven years. We have two beautiful boys, a 4-year-old and a 2-month-old, and our relationship has always been a great one. My mother has been living with us for the past year and a half.
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I called him today- after leaving him over 5 years ago and being married and having kids and not talking to him for almost 5 years. I love my husband, but I still love my ex-boyfriend. I didn’t think that what we had was enough because I wasn’t fully satisfied with him. When I was with him, I constantly thought of the man who is now my husband. Now that I am married, I constantly think of my ex.
Anyways, I dreamed about him last night.
Jan 20, · My Husband Wants to Name Our Baby After His Ex-Girlfriend. Q. Baby ex: Before we started going out, my husband was in a long-term relationship with a .
My husband and I split up last summer. We had no children. We had been married for four years and he just seemed to withdraw after year two. We started fighting about the littlest of things and overall, things were pretty miserable. He did tell me before we got married that he wanted them, but he started withdrawing from the idea as the marriage went on. He also started spending a lot of time at work.
I got frustrated with him as time went on, and my disagreements led to me pulling away from him physically. We also had some financial issues. Then came the day that we split up. A huge fight over the what we were going to do over the last 4th of July.
I Called My Ex Today After 5 Years.
Every Monday I like to post a Reader Question and then take a stab at answering it. They text quite a bit and talk on the phone. It just really bugs me.
Apr 09, · I think my husband of 2 months, is still in love with his ex-girlfriend. They have a child together that is 10 months old. The child lives with the ex full time, and my husband only gets to see her every other Saturday.
You were selected because he likes how you look. There are definitely other things he likes about you, like personality, intelligence, wit, earning potential… but he finds out about those AFTER he sees you. This is the first reason it makes perfect sense why you look like his ex. It would be much faster for him to get a different chick that looks the way she used to look than to put her on a diet or wait for her hair to grow back. Just get another bar. If they broke up because of personality clashes, he might be looking to upgrade to the same chick, visually, but without the character flaws.
Then again, being around a gal that reminds him of his ex could easily trigger flashbacks for him to jacked-up situations that occurred between them. Memento Another interesting issue is familiarity. It felt like a prequel, haha like how X-Men Origins: Wolverine was supposed to be before X-Men, but was actually filmed 9 years later. I think this is a rather interesting form of Transference:
Help! I Keep Telling My Girlfriend She’s Attractive but She Isn’t.
Dear Wendy is a relationship advice blog. You can read about me here , peruse the archives here and read popular posts here. You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and it has been great; I believe he is the love of my life! My boyfriend was with his ex-girlfriend for a little under a year and he got really close with her daughter. My boyfriend has taken up responsibility of being a father figure for this little girl which I admire but recently have not been comfortable with.
May 13, · My ex boyfriend dropped me and is now dating my co-worker. Your game plan should not change. Certainly, things might be somewhat more awkward, but there could be some positives you can take from this situation.
I think perhaps he is curious and wonders what she is up to. However, it doesn’t sound good that he’s contacting her again. I don’t know how you hold it in, I don’t think I could ever hold in knowing about the emails, I would of exploded the moment I read that first email. I wish I could give some good advice but all I could say is for you to be honest with your husband.
He will get mad that you snooped but it will only be to deflect the issue off of him. Either way, trust has been broken. See I’m a little sneaky when I have info but don’t want my fiance to know how I got the info. I think of a way to get it out of him without telling him that I knew. So what I would do is ask him in a casual conversation if he ever speaks to any of his exes.
Dating a Divorced Man: Signs His Ex isn’t Over Him
Twitter Last night while I was at my boyfriend’s house I asked him if I could use his phone. My phone is off and I needed to call my mom. He told me okay and handed me the phone as I went through to get my mom’s number in his phone I went past his ex’s name and it was recent. I’m not sure if it was an incoming or outgoing call because it was a list just of numbers and didn’t say so.
What I’m going to is that I have asked him casually oh so you don’t talk to your exes anymore and he straight up tells me no yet her number is still on his phone and in recent times like it was for this week. They broke up because she cheated on him.
Jul 16, · I never added my ex-husband, but only because he can be a pain in the ass. I never deleted the picture of a guy I was dating. At some point, you .
Have you ever been in a situation where you suspected or knew a partner of yours was being pursued by someone else while you were together? I guess if I thought he was encouraging it, I might feel differently. It was an ex girlfriend whom he was not attracted to anymore. She attempted to contact him but he refused to meet with her and he generally distanced himself from contact with her.
Had I gotten signals that he was interested, or curious, then I would have acted differently. Trust is important…and it has to be fostered. At a recent party, I had witnessed one of his business associates definitely making a play for him…right in front of me! So, when he returned from the aforementioned luncheon, I asked him point-blank if he had met so-and-so for lunch; he very sheepishly replied that he had.
Now I am painfully well aware that love alone does not a marriage make. He was simply better situated in life at the time, and I was simply out-manned. She made her choice, and as devastating to me as it was, it was the right one for her.
Am I Wrong for Asking My Boyfriend to Stop Talking to His Ex-Girlfriend?
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Mar 21, · I fantasize about my boyfriend with his ex girlfriend. Page 2 of 2 First 1 2. Jump to page: Results 11 to 19 of 19 Thread: I fantasize about my boyfriend with his ex girlfriend. Thread Tools. Show Printable Version; I have done it with all my bf’s and even my ex-husband! I don’t know why I get off on it.
We dated 10 years ago and we never even had sex.. I have had a dream with him in it for the past nights. Last nights was really weird… he walks up to me, tells me he loves me, and then we hug each other and go sit down at a table. Then I say… yeah but we were never married. I was never married to him the first boyfriend..
What the F is that about? After we broke up, I always had dream of him. I have been single for long time now. I have thought of dating again sometime soon.
Dear Coleen, Dating my ex from the 1980s has made me question my marriage
Evan, This may be an age-old question. My boyfriend is best friends with his ex-girlfriend. They dated for two and a half years, broke up 5 years ago, have many mutual friends.
Feb 06, · Exactly. It wasn’t enough for my husband’s ex to have her affair, to throw the husband out of the house and have her new (married) boyfriend move in right away; she actually had this man CALL my husband and TAUNT him about how he couldn’t keep his woman!
They have a pretty good relationship, according to her, and he even encouraged her to get back to regularly attending church. In fact, she attends his church. And it is there where she usually encounters his ex. Yes, they all go the same house of worship. Not a big deal, right? Specifically, the sister invites her to damn near every birthday party, anniversary soiree and graduation there is in the family. Like, irritates her to no end. In fact, the sister has been kind to Jada. He has shared with his sister that asking his ex to everything is not only uncomfortable for him, but Jada.
Still, Jada would appreciate if her boyfriend would do something. Put his foot down in some way. Church is one thing.
To My Ex-Husband’s New Girlfriend: I’m Sorry
Things had been great between us. Two things happened when I got here, however, which have me thinking. First, when I arrived I was very ill with a horrible cold. My boyfriend was also sick with food poisoning but he avoided me physically. I was hurt but understood.
Dec 11, · His girlfriend at the time, Ashley (who was also in the military), always tried starting things with his family & my family. She would always talk crap about me & my family. Since my (then) ex & I are from a small town & his dad is a cop, it was pretty rough.
A reader, anonymous, writes 13 August Honey it is normal to feel weird about meeting someone your BF use to be intimate with. This is not good a good indicator. He may be moving her into his life more for a reason. Having been in this situation before, I’ll tell you this – he’s bringing her into his life and he’s hoping once you know her, you’ll accept her being around more often. One guy I met introduced his young GF to his wife so that when the wife passed out in the evening, he and his GF could get it on whenever they wanted.
I had a BF that introduced me to his much younger coworker and tried to get us to be friends, next came the “taking the cell into the bathrm” stage, followed by the “get on the computer with the door closed” stage for him
I am upset by my husband’s contact with his ex-partners
August 20th, at To you I want to say: Wow, do I feel for you and what you are going through and for all the other posters here. It was very very difficult to leave her.
Boyfriend and I talked about his ex girlfriend. My ex that I haven’t talked to for a long time sent me a message through MySpace. We started talking again and he was telling how he missed me and wanted to hang out one night.
February 6, The Next Guy: Grieving the loss of a love relationship can be a painful experience. Grieving and letting go of an abusive relationship and an abusive wife or girlfriend is frequently a far more painful and difficult experience. There are several reasons for this. At the end of an otherwise healthy relationship between two reasonable, rational adults, the former partners are typically able to give one another closure. Abusive women and men, especially personality disordered women and men Sociopaths, Narcissists, Borderlines, Histrionics, High-Conflict People — henceforth known as Crazy do not do closure.
It is also difficult to let go of Crazy because of the high degree of ambiguity this kind of relationship creates. Did she ever really love you? Was any of it real? Will she be different with the next guy? What if you had hung in there? This type of woman repeats the same behaviors over and over again in her relationships. She has a script in her head that she force fits new partners into whether they like it or not. This phenomenon is described in Crazy Bitch the Musical!